Do you have someone you know who only brings you problems?
Their tire blew, their husband left, they can’t read the sign, they don’t know who to call, their business is suffering, they need a ride, they need to borrow money, they can’t fix the tv, they don’t know how their phone works, They can’t find their keys, on and on.
Look out for these people. They will drain you of more energy than they need. These people are operating on a mental circuit that keeps them stuck in this behavior pattern. Pay attention, and once you spot them doing this to you, ask them to bring you a SOLUTION! DON’T sympathize with them. I don’t care who it is. Your mom, dad, sister, friend, brother, grandmother, doesn’t matter.
Stop them dead in their tracks, and demand a solution. You will be surprised to learn that they are totally and completely able to handle their own lives. Even though they work very hard at making you believe they can’t. The more you sympathize with them, the worse you make it for everyone.